3 Effective Ways on How to Perk Up Your Social Life

October 6, 2009 by  
Filed under Self Improvement

If you’re one of the `chosen’ few who can make any party the social event of the century, then you must be lucky. But for those who are, well, taking the sidelines and spending the entire night talking to the wall, you must do something to your social life before it becomes extinct!

It’s hard to fit in. And much harder to be the ‘belle of the ball’. In case you don’t know, the way you enter the scene also has its importance. The way you walk into a party will set the pace for the rest of the night. If you get your entrance right, no one will want you to exit.

According to a photographer with an eye for style, confidence is the key if you want to be noticed for all the right reasons. You have to look as though you’re worth noticing. First, observe proper posture. Stand up straight with your shoulders back and your head held high. As you walk into the room, all eyes will be on you — so, make that first impression a good one. Wear some color, even if it’s just a splash. This will be your chance to shine in the sea of black. But again, you should be confident enough to let the color speak for itself. To get noticed, you need to stand out from the crowd. Your make-up could be different or your dress, your hair, your shoes — whatever. You must have something that makes you unique. Show off your assets. They say if you’ve got it, then flaunt it! Use it to your advantage.

Here are 3 effective ways on how to perk up your social life:


Who would ever want to be a budding wallflower? Of course, it’s always better to be the life of the party and the center of attention. But actually, the most important thing is just to have a blast. It’s a party so it’s supposed to spell F-U-N. Here are some tips:

• Smile and look as if you’re having a good time.

• Remember names and pay attention. Good listening skills are crucial.

• Stand by the bar so you can talk to people as they pass.

• Circulate! If you know the host, offer to take around food and drinks. In that way, you’ll automatically be more involved.

• Keep them laughing. Humor is a sure-fire people puller.


Too nervous to get inside the circle? Most of the time, people are having a hard time to fit into the party crowd. Don’t let your tongue-tied self get into your partying. Keep these simple but effective ways in mind:

• If shy, just say ‘Hi, my name is

‘. As simple as that, it’s a sure way of starting a conversation. And most people are delighted to be approached.

• Introduce others into the circle. In that way, there will be more people to socialize with. The more the merrier!

• Compliment people. Just don’t overdo it. People always feel annoyed when someone is babbling.

• Don’t talk politics. It can be seen as too earnest. Different beliefs maybe the start of a misunderstanding.

• Commenting on the weather is fine but accentuate the positive.


Spotting a bunch of elite-looking people having a blast is a drag. It makes you wish you were just one of them. If you can’t beat them, join them, right? Here’s how to rub elbows with them.

• Waltz over and offer to share your fresh bottle of champagne. This never fails.

• Know the designers and drop the name as soon as you recognize an item. The person wearing it will be thrilled.

• Swagger over, say “Hi, sweetie!” and air-kiss someone. When they look puzzled, gasp, “I’m so sorry, you look just like a good friend of mine! Do you know David Smith by the way?” And off you go.


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